I stumbled across this article today, “Contentment as a Christian Single.” The article was written in 1999, so the writer may be married by now. She offers good advice for us single Christians:
To find contentment as Christian singles we must assess and identify the state of our singleness (i.e., voluntary, involuntary, or chosen). If we are an involuntary single we may attempt to make ourselves a voluntary one because we do not want to face the hurt, grief, or the reality of our singleness. Instead, we convince ourselves that it’s okay to be single when deep down within we are broken and wounded as a result of someone leaving us because of death or divorce.If you have chosen to be a voluntary single, do not look at your surroundings — look within. Assess the state of your heart, soul, and mind to honestly determine if you are truly ready to receive the mate God may have in store for you. Often times, we become discontent because we are attempting to define our being through the eyes of man and society.
Of course this is all easier to say than it is to do, just like everything else.
I suspect that most of my readers are married, so it may have been awhile since you faced the singleness issue. While I’ve not chosen to be a voluntary single, I suppose that’s what I am. Most of the men people try to fix me up with are either liberal Christians or conservative unbelievers, neither of which I want to deal with.
Why am I writing about this? I’ve just been doing a lot of thinking about it lately. Believe me, it’s not a call for, “Hey La Shawn, I’ve got this friend…”
The writer closes with this:
with us solely and completely to equip us for our divine calling as a Christian single. God needs to know how committed we are to Him not just in our deeds, but in our heart, soul, and mind. Once we are totally satisfied in God, He will know that we will be ready and satisfied with the mate that He sends us!
Very uplifting. Check out this prayer, “Sowing Seeds of Prayer into Singles for Contentment, Service, Purity and Revival.”Also good advice. What are your thoughts?
