Larry Elder asks, “When can we blacks get to the point where you and I can have a disagreement — about racism, affirmative action, the War in Iraq, whatever — without someone who thinks like me being a sell-out or an Uncle Tom? Is that at all possible? Am I asking too much?” (Source)
Answer to question #1: When it is no longer profitable or otherwise advantageous for blacks to participate in grievance-shopping politics. For example, racial discrimination was once harmful to blacks; now it’s beneficial. When the tide turns, blacks who oppose skin color preferences will no longer be considered “sell-outs.”
Answer to question #2: The question is not whether you’re asking too much, Mr. Elder. Why ask the question at all? It’s pointless. For some people, whining, excuse-making, and finger-pointing are sub-culturally ingrained. The current is too strong. I don’t know about you, but I have neither the time, inclination, nor energy to turn the tide. Just continue to make your stand, and the enlightened will come to you.