Tuesday, May 29: Welcome, Conservative Grapevine readers. This post is closed to commenting, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on Death to Pedophiles.
Sunday, May 27: Evia responds in the comment section:
“I’m Evia, and I’m opinionated, LOL! – so here goes.
“First, let me point out that I have NEVER had a bad relationship with a black man and no one can ever truthfully say that I have. My first husband was a black man and we had such a loving relationship (though different goals) until I definitely wanted to remarry. I’ve NEVER had a bad relationship with any man, for that matter. My ex-husband is actually one of my best friends and I’ve remained friends with my ex-boyfriends. So I’m not an angry, mean black woman, though some black men in cyberspace have tried to portray me as MRS. HITLER because of my efforts to remove the shackles from the brains of so many black women. LOL! This is because apparently these men see the message of my blog as a threat to them and they therefore try to discredit the blog’s message by defaming me.”
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Attention readers: Are you a black woman interested in dating and/or marrying a white man? If so, check out Black Female Interracial Marriage, a blog hosted by Evia, who is married to a white man.
I found Evia — or rather, she found me — because she linked to my post, “Black Marriage.”
Evia says that black women need to be more open-minded when it comes to dating non-black men. Some black women have been conditioned to believe that white men don’t find them attractive, says Evia. Her blog is a refuge, of sorts, for black women to gather and discuss their desires for interracial relationships and the societal pressures of such desires (not to mention the relationships). Evia encourages black women to get out of dysfunctional relationships where they’re not appreciated and expand their dating horizons.
Like me, Evia is outspoken and says things that tend to offend a certain segment of the population. She’s been accused of bashing black men, and as far as I can tell (I visit the blog at least once a week), she stands her ground. In a recent post, she wrote:
I know that black women need a guiding light type organization or entity of some sort to begin breaking the black male chokehold of sexism that has a grip on the bulk of black women, however some black men and others in the black community feel very threatened when we talk about the need for black females to promote OUR self interests, or when we talk about how black males victimize us, or black female FREEDOM, or black male discrimination against black females based on colorism, or black male devaluation of black females in general, or the black female RIGHT to love and be loved by whomever we choose etc.
Many black men don’t defend black women or support our interests and want us to remain silent about the various ways that black men shortchange, abuse, and abandon black women and children. These black men want black women to continue to give them unreciprocated loyalty, support, and to remain focused ONLY on racism.
Of course, black men who don’t do these things to black women have no reason to be offended, right? 
The excerpt is not meant to be representative of what Evia writes, so I hope my linking to her blog doesn’t cause her too much grief. I just wanted single black women readers interested in dating and/or marrying white men to know about the blog. 
To all readers: If you date(ed) or are married across racial or cultural lines, tell us about your experiences.
STAY ON TOPIC, please.
Also see Black Women’s IR (Interracial) Circle.
(Photo credit: Renellie International)
