[quote]Being that statistically, two thirds of divorces are initiated by women, does it seem that women place less emphasis on having a father in the house than men?

Comment by Greg [/quote]

An interesting statistic and most likely completely true. Having worked for a divorce attorney, I can attest that there were a lot of women who filed first, but in every case the man had already moved out. If the wife can’t seduce the husband and his paycheck back from his girlfriend’s apartment, then she got to get that paperwork on file so she can pay the bills.

NOT MY PROGRAM —- just asking!

When we post on conservative blogs we’ll have to unfortunately endure and even attempt to fruitfully engage with a whole lot of Jared Taylor, Ian Jobling, and Michael Levin wanna-be’s.

Don’t fret.

The fact that a woman in that pay bracket is giving birth illegitimately shows a lack of morality (at least at conception).

Still, that is not good. Unwed is unwed whether you are poor or rich. That is NOT a good thing!

• 22% of never-married black women with incomes over $75,000 have children, 10 times that of white women.

This isn’t a bad thing. In fact I
would argue that it is a very GOOD
thing. There are far too many capable
and competent people who are NOT having
kids. When the breeders in a society
are comprised of the least fit, what
does that say about the future of
that society?

I personally believe that the government
should literally PAY people with high
incomes and/or high educational
achievement to have children.

My wife and I are retired and enjoying the role of Grandparent. We have four daughters. I must comment that the role of the father in the life of daughters is critically important too. One author says that every girl is a “princess” who asks two questions, “Am I beautiful?” and “Do you love me?” The affirmative answers to those questions are best supplied often and emphatically by the father. If that is lacking, the search for those answers begins to include other males and lasts into adulthood and for most of life. My opinion is that women “settle” for less than worthy men who have learned to get what they want by manipulating the woman. Giving “love” to get sex.

My wife and I are facilitating a premarital training and marriage mentoring program in our church. Training IS important.

We are also involved in our community as CASA volunteers. (I’m one of the few males in the local program!) We see too many young people who are in the foster care system because of the wreckage of uncommitted parents, most often the fleeing or unconcerned male who has “moved on.” Two parents are no guarantee of loving stability but they do improve the odds. We seldom are see a CASA child who is from a two parent home.

HHMmm. Sounds like I’m blowing my own horn. Sorry. Just want to say that if you have learned things that have helped you, get involved with sharing that experience with others, pass it on! My wife and I learned too much the hard way, butting heads for decades in some cases. Divorce was never an option, murder perhaps, but never divorce. We want to help others learn sooner some of the things that took us a long time to discover. Keeping the family together is paramount.

John said it best regarding being a believer/Jesus follower, “You will know them by their love.”

This is the key, the crux of the matter.

I enjoy your blog, LaShawn.

Olive

I find that a lot of people who have problems also have a lot of excuses and places to shift blame. They usually resist taking ownership for much of what is of their own making. As a conservative, I think that taking responsibility for your situation is essential to effecting an improvement. Granted, some folks are so worn down that they have to brought around slowly. But stroking a check and letting them go back to their failing ways is not the answer.

Conservatives who write people off and don’t offer a hand up are out there, I know. They just haven’t met me. Kicking a person who is down is not a philosophy, it is a sickness.

Whenever someone pats me on the back and hands me a donation, I always tell them I will call them when I have something I think they can pitch in an do. Surprisingly, to some, most people will help, they just have to be asked.

In that aspect they are not much different in that both groups look down upon those who fall short of their ideal.

But nonetheless, the solution to those problems of familial destruction is going to be bi-partisan in nature which is the promotion of purity and preparation. Doing that will nip all of that in the bud.

As well I say that you husband is/was EXCEPTIONAL indeed as most 21 year olds are not regarding those endeavors.