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Black, White, and Blue

by La Shawn on July 28, 2009

in General

You know, it takes a brave person to go against the grain, something I’ve witnessed first-hand since I began writing for publication. The pressure to conform is even greater if you’re a black person who believes white racism is the least of America’s concerns and certainly plays no significant role in the lives of blacks. Fatherlessness and illegitimacy do play significant roles, however. These conditions cause more harm in the so-called black community than racism ever has or ever will.

It isn’t simply a matter of holding views that diverge from the group’s; it’s expressing those views publicly that make people angry enough to send hate-mail and call you names like self-hater. “Racist” whites may use your views to bolster their own opinions, they say. In other words, stick to the script and don’t attempt to ad-lib. Words and ideas are dangerous, so pipe down and keep your opinions inside your head.

Black police officers in Cambridge, Massachusetts, who support Sgt. Crowley (arrested Henry Louis Gates) and the Cambridge police force are probably catching it right now. Then again, maybe not. Perhaps people have evolved beyond castigating those who refuse to march in lockstep, regardless of skin color.

(Of course they haven’t, but I wanted to do what Jesse said and keep hope alive!)

Pimps, Whores, and Welfare BratsFour chapters into my novel (!), which I’ll blog more about once I’m finished the 75,000-word draft, I thought I’d take a break and point you to a column by the fabulous Star Parker (love her!).

All Star Parker’s op-eds are worth reading, especially the latest, alternatively titled, “We’re All Inner-City Blacks Now.”

Blacks are not given enough credit for being trendsetters in America.

Blacks started playing the blues, jazz, and R&B, then the rest of America started playing them.

Blacks discovered the politics of victimhood, then the rest of America started catching on.

Black women got into having babies without marriage. Then white women started getting into it (the incidence of white out-of-wedlock births today — almost 30 percent — is higher than the black rate in the 1960s).

Blacks bought into dependency and the welfare state. Now the rest of America has bought in.

Blacks for years elected politicians championing public policy that destroyed their own communities. Now the rest of America has installed a new political leadership with the perfect formula — run roughshod over private ownership, disdain traditional values, substitute political power for personal responsibility — for destroying our country.

As the black family collapsed, predictable social pathologies escalated. Crime, drugs, promiscuity, sexually transmitted diseases, fatherless children, abortion and disdain for education.

Couldn’t have said it better myself. Her point is that Big Government makes things worse. Visit Star Parker’s web site, CURE.

By the way, if you haven’t read her personal story, Pimps, Whores and Welfare Brats: From Welfare Cheat to Conservative Messenger, and the wonderful Uncle Sam’s Plantation: How Big Government Enslaves America’s Poor and What We Can Do About It, you’re missing out.

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I must return to my fictional world. The characters assure me their story is worth telling, so I must listen. Ciao!

Murder, Marriage, and Hamster Wheels

by La Shawn on January 7, 2009

in Cultural Decline

Heather Mac Donald hits another one out of the park with a parsing of a New York Times article about the “youth crisis” of rising murder rates among blacks. Nothing new. Young black men kill each other and will continue doing so, fueled by factors like fatherlessness and family instability.

Generally speaking, there’s no one around to teach them how to be decent men and take responsibility for themselves and offspring they produce. The women in the family can’t or apparently don’t want to socialize them with the expectation of getting married and making a home of their own for themselves and their wives and children. They don’t learn how to master their impulses or direct their natural aggression to productive pursuits. And on and on.

You know my views on the matter. If not, check the archives. Search “fatherless,” “fatherlessness,” and variations on the theme.

I wanted to point you to Mac Donald’s column. Her critiques are always devastating, from my perspective. Too bad she doesn’t pop up in mainstream publications more often. In her latest City Journal article, “The Times’s Crime Confusions Persist,” she advises President-elect Barack Obama to take a new approach to reducing crime rates. If your time is short today, don’t waste it reading this post. Go straight to the article.

Mac Donald points out something I’m sure a lot of people know: the disparity between white and black homicides (10-to-1) actually is greater than the numbers show. That’s because the government includes hispanics in the “white” crime perpetrator rate category. “Hispanic crime rates are between three and four times that of whites—meaning that if one excluded the Hispanic homicides from the white rate, the black-white differential would be even larger than ten to one,” she writes.

Curiously, hispanic victims of crime are broken out into a separate category. This tactic masks the real horror (substitute sadness, atrocity, whatever works for you) of violent crime among blacks (and hispanics). That’s the point, I suspect.

American boysMac Donald also gets to the root of the problem, one so many people tend to ignore or downplay: marriage. A stabilizing and civilizing influence on men and boys and the conduit through which values and valuable life/family lessons are passed down, marriage is a rarity among young blacks with children. They don’t even expect to be married. They have sex, make babies and excuses, and pass this sorry and disrespectful behavior on to their children.

But talking about it won’t change anything, It makes for interesting conversation, though. It’s like looking at a train about to wreck. Terrible. Awful. But what can you do to stop it? It’s going too fast, and it’s a lot bigger than you are.

Mac Donald writes:

“Liberal policymakers and pundits have spilled buckets of ink over the years promoting social-service programs as the solution to crime, yet—like the Times’s recent editorial—those opinion-setters cannot squeeze out one word about the most effective anticrime (and antipoverty) strategy: marriage. The marriage imperative civilizes boys. By contrast, in a world where it is unusual for a man to marry the mother of his children, boys fail to learn the most basic lesson of personal responsibility: you are responsible for your children. Freed of the social expectation that they will have to provide a stable home for their offspring, boys have little incentive to restrain their impulses and develop bourgeois habits. In 2005, the national black illegitimacy rate was 70 percent, and it approached 90 percent in many inner cities (compared with a white illegitimacy rate of 25 percent, and as low as 6 percent in some urban areas, like the District of Columbia). The disappearance of marriage from the black community is a social cataclysm.

“Some highly structured, values-based youth programs, like the Boy Scouts, can provide boys a surrogate for the paternal authority that they lack at home; society is right to support these lifelines. But they cannot possibly bring crime down significantly among blacks in the absence of a cultural shift toward marriage. True, no one knows yet how to revive marriage in the black community. But given the imperative of doing so, you would think that somewhere in the flood of recommendations for more useless government social programs, a little space could be reserved for promoting the idea of a marriage movement.”

Mac Donald has and isn’t afraid to use common sense and put her thoughts down on paper for public consumption. Obviously, being called a racist doesn’t intimidate her in the least. Courageous and honest people are needed in a crisis, people, and but too many of us are faint-hearted.

The standard liberal solution to society’s problems in general and social pathology among blacks in particular strays far away from confronting the individual. Well-intentioned but ultimately useless social programs funded by taxpayers make liberals feel like they’re doing something. The truth is, we’re just spinning our wheels like hamsters. The character of individuals, not so much the dynamics of the group, must change.

P.S.: Instead of sending “dissenting” e-mail to me or Heather Mac Donald, send it to the men doing the killing and the men and women dooming black babies to fatherless childhoods. They deserve your scorn. We don’t.

Barack Obama’s Post-Racial Delusion

by La Shawn on November 6, 2008

in Liberals - Obama

A somewhat unorganized collection of post-election thoughts. More to come.

Author Shelby Steele, with whom I shared a discussion panel several years ago, writes about Barack Obama’s delusional “post-racial promise.”

Barack ObamaAfter Obama’s speech at the 2004 Democratic National Convention, people at my former day job were aglow. (See Barack Obama Goes to Boston) My boss in particular went on and on about this “young man” and his eloquent speech. I told him I hadn’t watched the convention but couldn’t wait to find out what everyone was gushing about. I read the speech and found nothing remarkable about it.

Young, black, and possessed of so-called charisma, Obama was fresh and new. His rhetoric was tired and devoid of substance, but he symbolized a racial idealism, as Steele notes. My co-workers, black and white, were excited about the “articulate” Obama’s potential. It was the idea of him rather than what he said that got people excited. My boss, who was white, could barely contain himself.

It’s safe to say my sixtysomething former boss proudly voted for Barack Obama on Tuesday. No doubt he bought into the “post-racial promise,” the idea that Americans have moved beyond race, and a vote for Obama proves it. For white liberal types, failing to support Obama implies a failure to embrace this ideal.

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Fatherlessness As Child Abuse?

by La Shawn on July 1, 2008

in Cultural Decline, Faith

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Over the years, through what I’ve seen with my own eyes and heard from others, I’ve come to believe that deliberately depriving a child of a father is a form of child abuse.

That’s not a popular position to hold. What’s doubly sad is that criticizing people who deprive children this way is worse than actually depriving the children. Why? Please explain.

Losing a father through death is awful, but it’s not the same as losing him through divorce or being born into a fatherless home. In whichever case, a child will feel abandoned, but losing a father through divorce and being deprived of one from birth are deliberate acts of abandonment, worse than death in a sense. When a family loses a father through death, they keep his memory alive. His authority lingers. The children grow up knowing he loved them and their mother, made sacrifices for their well being, and did not walk out on them to pursue his own interests.

Three out of four black babies are born in the United States to women who aren’t married to the fathers. Fatherlessness leads to a multitude of problems, the worst of which is the repeated cycle of fatherlessness. You’ve read the studies. Even if you haven’t, you’ve seen firsthand the effects of fatherlessness on children, especially boys.

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Chastity in the City

by La Shawn on April 25, 2008

in Faith

Greetings! Yes, I still breathe. Just taking a blog break. I wanted to update the entry below, originally published on April 7, 2008. Steve at Hog on Ice wrote a response to my post called Abstinence and the Suburbs. While I don’t agree with everything he writes, his point of view is worth noting.

He mentions my “self-imposed celibacy.” To clarify, I am not celibate, which, although defined as abstention, is vowing not to marry. I have not vowed such a thing. I wish to marry, but I will remain abstinent until I do. The distinction is important for people struggling with this issue. Giving up premarital sex is not synonymous with giving up on or avoiding marriage.

Anyway, I’m en route to the left coast. See you next week, and rest easy!
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Dawn EdenI’m sure there are lots of chaste women living in cities all across America, but “Chastity in the City” doesn’t sell in Hollywood.

By chaste, I mean voluntarily abstaining from sex until marriage and from extramarital sex while married. Journalist, blogger, and author Dawn Eden says chastity is much more than being sexually abstinent or faithful. Check out her interview with John Hawkins of Right Wing News.

Buy a copy of Dawn’s book, The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On.

Is it worth buying? Read my review.

I’m considering writing a similar book about my road to sexual abstinence, among other things. I became abstinent shortly before becoming a Christian (I was going through a “Look at me. Aren’t I a good person?” phase), but it took on a spiritual meaning once I surrendered to Christ.

There is a crisis, to understate the matter, in the black community. About 75 percent (more in some cities) of black babies in the U.S. are born out-of-wedlock. That women should keep their legs closed until marriage is considered a naïve notion at best and a sexist/oppressive one at worst. Subversive is what it is.

Some people are offended by the expression “keep your legs closed.” Is it vulgar? Perhaps, but so is having babies with several different men without being married to any of them. What about the man’s responsibility? He shares it, for sure, but the book I have in mind will be geared toward young women, black women in particular, who either don’t know what God requires of them and those who know and don’t care, and somewhere along the way lost respect for themselves and forgot who they are in Christ.

I’ve written reams on illegitimacy and its impact on children. No point reinventing the microchip. Look up terms like “out-of-wedlock” and “fatherless.”

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by La Shawn on January 21, 2008

in General

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Abandoned

by La Shawn on October 24, 2007

in BC Wisdom

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Blaming white people can be a way for some black people to feel better about themselves, but it doesn't pay the electric bills. There are more doors of opportunity open for black people today than ever before in the history of America. - from Come On, People: On the Path From Victims to Victors

In “Tough, Sad and Smart,” columnist Bob Herbert discusses actor Bill Cosby and Dr. Alvin Poussaint (who was a consultant for “The Cosby Show”) and their new book, Come On, People: On the Path From Victims to Victors, which is about, among other things, fatherlessness among blacks and the failure to seize opportunities America has to offer.

I’ve said many times on this blog and elsewhere that the collapse of the family is the biggest problem facing black Americans. While I believe certain bigoted attitudes will always exist, white racism, as traditionally understood, is neither an obstacle nor a threat to any black person living today.

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Slackness

by La Shawn on August 21, 2007

in Cultural Decline

He Talk Like A White BoyIn my not-so-humble opinion, the single most pressing issue in the “black community,” however you define it, is that black men have abandoned their children.

I don’t need to lay out the arguments and post statistics related to drug use, criminality, underachievement, promiscuity, and teenage pregnancy among fatherless children. You’ve read and heard it all before.

It’s a vicious cycle. Until black people start having babies within marriage the way they used to, it will be difficult to break the cycle. The chances that a fatherless boy will grow up with the expectation of getting married first, having children later, and supporting his family are quite low. It’s not likely he’s learning how to be a husband, father, and provider from the women in his family, who themselves probably were fatherless and are rearing fatherless children. It’s awful. Blacks have done this terrible thing to themselves and have no one to blame but themselves.

I’d love to go on CNN and talk about that.

Joseph C. Phillips, actor and author of He Talk Like A White Boy, addresses this issue in his latest column. An excerpt:

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Democrats in Blackface

by La Shawn on August 14, 2007

in Liberals, Rants

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Even when I was still voting for Democrats, I noticed how condescending they and other white liberals tended to be. Trying to appear comfortable around black people, they usually ended up saying something dumb. Being yourself must be difficult when you’re trying to pretend you care about or even know any black people.

White liberals do have this going for them: as long as they’re self-deprecating around blacks, they can get away with saying just about anything, no matter how offensive.

Five years ago, when I first started calling myself a conservative, I wrote an op-ed about the lack of outrage among blacks over a white Maryland state senator calling then Lt. Governor Michael Steele an Uncle Tom during some redistricting controversy. In subsequent years, I noticed that no high profile black political bigmouth or journalist came to the defense of people like Condoleezza Rice when white liberals made offensive race-based comments to or about them.

That’s white Democrats’ privilege. As honorary blacks, they can shuck and jive with the best of them. And as long as they promise to feed more tax dollars into yet more social programs, they’re golden.

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Eddie Murphy’s Mess

by La Shawn on August 5, 2007

in Cultural Decline, Pop Culture

Here’s one of many reasons why people should create a stable home before procreating. Comedian Eddie Murphy knocked up Spice Girl Melanie Brown, and fled. He ordered DNA tests, and the baby is indeed his, but “[h]e has not indicated in his statement or to us that he plans to visit the baby,” said Brown’s “feminist” lawyer Gloria Allred.

Because Murphy lost interest in sleeping with Brown, a child is fatherless. Yes, the girl will receive checks from her wealthy father, but in all likelihood, that’s all she’ll get. Given the shameful epidemic of fatherless children among blacks, my tolerance for listening to blacks blame white racism for everything from the academic achievement gap to higher loan interest rates has hit rock bottom.

How much more damaging to a child are parental neglect and apathy than the most virulent racism? Oh, let us count the ways…

NO APOLOGY

by La Shawn on July 13, 2007

in Dinosaurs, Liberals, Lunacy

Charlotte mayor Pat McCrory3:04 p.m. PDT: Whenever I hear a man apologize for telling the truth because some idiotic group puts pressure on him, I want to vomit.

But I won’t be retching today.

Pat McCrory, the mayor of Charlotte, North Carolina, wrote that too many black youth were imitating the gangster lifestyle in their behavior and dress, a true statement. (Charlotte Observer) McCrory noted that 60 percent of Charlotte’s gang members are black.

A local chapter of the long irrelevant NAACP was in an uproar over the statement. The president of the local branch said McCrory had painted “African American youth with a broad swath that cuts deep in many of our communities” and “demanded” an apology. McCrory has refused. Why?

“Because my comments were accurate. Period,” he said.

That’s a gentlemanly way of saying, “Kiss my a**.”

Too many black “youth” eschew education and decent living, while embracing a lifestyle that glorifies criminal activity, triflingness (yes, there’s such a word), and having illicit and zero-responsibility sex with as many women as possible. The resultant children are sentenced to fatherless homes and instability. That, too, makes me sick to my stomach.

But daring to name a thing is worst than being the thing, in this twisted society.

Blacks cannot complain about what white people may or may not be doing to them when they don’t even care about their own children. I’ve lost patience with it, and I advise everybody — no matter what color you are — to stop being afraid of the truth or of black people making demands. Take it from an insider: the bark, as loud and annoying as it is, is much worse than the bite.

Kudos to Mayor McCrory for telling the truth and refusing to take it back. I hope he stands his ground.

A Charlotte Observer reader responds: “As the African American mother of a son, I take no offense at the mayor’s statement. Let’s face it, he has simply brought to the front the language and behavior we have allowed our children to adopt. Instead of attacking the mayor, let’s attack the problem. Our African American youth need our help.”

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Urban Prep

by La Shawn on June 4, 2007

in Education

Urban PrepUpdate (3:19 p.m.): How I got on the e-mail list is a mystery, but I just received a “media advisory” from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, about the “African American Healthy Marriage Conference,” scheduled June 19-21, at University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill.

Did I mention how much I loathe the term “African American”? Anyway, the theme is “Healthy People, Healthy Families: Connecting Marriage Research to Practice.” From the e-mail:

“The African American Healthy Marriage Initiative is an outreach effort to promote and strengthen the institution of healthy marriage in the black community. ACF has partnered with national, civic, faith-based and community organizations to offer marriage education services to Americans who may not have such opportunities in their neighborhoods.

“Sessions during the conference include good news about African American fathers; the three anchor institutions of family, education and faith; and military couples with children and the impact of separation on their relationships. Speakers scheduled to appear include Ronald Mincy, Ph.D., of Columbia University , School of Social Work ; Robert Franklin, Ph.D., presidential distinguished professor of social ethics at Emory University ; Wilson Goode, Sr., director of Amachi and former mayor of Philadelphia ; and Jerry Regier, Principal Deputy Assistant Secretary, ASPE, HHS.”

The conference will be useful to someone, I’m sure. It’s sad things have gotten so bad in the “black community” (as far as marriage is concerned) that the government has to hold conferences like this. :?

I forgot to link to “The frayed knot” this morning. Check it out.

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Urban: The Race Preference Loophole

by La Shawn on April 20, 2007

in Race Preferences

Some schools are taking pre-emptive action against Department of Justice (DOJ) investigations and private citizen lawsuits by removing blatantly illegal, racially exclusive language from scholarships and replacing it with the new descriptor, “urban.”

Urban, of course, is code for “black.” Northeastern University has opened its Ujima Scholars program to all students, but with a catch. The program will target students from an “urban background.” (Source)

Questions like, “If Northeastern is already predominately a White university, why should the Ujima programs be used for White students?” uttered by Lula Petty-Edwards, director of the school’s African American Institute, are totally irrelevant to the illegality of racially exclusive scholarships.

Northeastern, a private research university, receives federal (taxpayer-funded) grants. That brings it within the purview of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. (”No person in the United States shall, on the ground of race, color, or national origin, be excluded from participation in, be denied the benefits of, or be subjected to discrimination under any program or activity receiving Federal financial assistance.”) In that regard, the school also may want to remove racially exclusive language from other scholarships and fellowships.

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Update III (4/10): Same problems in Britian. Fatherlessness and family instability. It’s out of control. But with no “legacy of slavery” or former government-mandated segregation to blame, they should focus on the key to fixing this mess, which isn’t more government programs. Need a hint? Parents, parents, parents!

Update II: John Fund writes about former Justice Sandra Day O’Connor, whose vote upheld the University of Michigan law school’s illegal race preference admissions policy in Grutter v. Bollinger. Hopefully, the current Supreme Court will interpret the Equal Protection Clause properly.

Fund also mentions UCLA’s new holistic review admissions policy. (Hat tip: Discriminations)

In other news…another government school creates a separate program for black boys (free reg. req.) to compensate for cultural factors like fatherlessness and family instability in an effort to close the academic achievement gap. An excerpt:

Some black scholars said that achievement-gap programs must be tailored to the needs of black male students if the programs are to succeed. Freeman A. Hrabowski III, president of the University of Maryland, Baltimore County, said that many black boys grow up with few male role models and in high-crime neighborhoods, where being smart in school is not considered cool. “You can’t just ignore the needs of a group and say all children are the same,” he said.

That may be true, considering the program has produced positive results for some of the boys, but you can’t get around the fact that taxpayer-supported race-based [more precisely, racially exclusive] programs are illegal. This is why people need to focus on fundamentals like building solid, intact families and strong communities, and placing a premium on education in those families and communities rather than relying on government to take up the cultural slack.

Good luck with all that. :?

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